One minute you think he's interested....

... the next he's trying to book your flight out of the country. 


I've had this happen a few times. 

I'll be having a conversation with a guy I'm interested in and he'll be showering me with compliments telling me what an amazing girl I am...

you would think that would be a good thing, right?  Things must really be going well, right??




It always seems that way until they wrap up the compliments with the grand finale:



"No really, you're awesome.....



You would make SUCH a great missionary!"



This sister missionary craze has given the guys a way to compliment you AND reject you at the same time.  PERFECT.

True Colors

There have been so many times in the past month that I've heard of someone's worst side coming out.  Someone snapping and saying something they wouldn't usually say or doing something that I knew they were ashamed of.  Whenever I heard about these things, the people around me would say things like 

"well, I guess that her true colors came out"

 or 

"Well, that really showed his true character." 

I HATE that.

I hate that one mistake can change someone's entire opinion about a person.  No matter how much good someone has done, if they say or do something wrong, suddenly that's their "true self". 

I think that we should stop judging people by the worst things they do, and start making judgments based on the best things they do.  

Someone's character isn't based on the instances where we slip up.  Even though we should all stick to our values and be our best selves as much as possible... we all make mistakes, and we all have regrets.  We can't let those mistakes define us, and we can't let others mistakes define the way we see them.  

Character is about who we are consistently striving to be. 

***obviously, there are some mistakes that are bigger than others and we really do have to be careful about trusting people again.  Not every mistake can be ignored.  I'm talking about the ones that can - words we regret saying, small actions where we weren't as kind as we wish we would have been, etc.***

Don't be hatin'.

There's something that has really been driving me nuts about people in general lately....

it's the way we sometimes let jealousy make us hate a person.

I don't get it.  

Why does someone being successful mean we can't like him/her?

***"She makes every audition she tries out for... so I hate her."  

       "He gets to go on that trip I want to go on, and I don't think he deserves it... so I hate him."

       "She gets every guy... so I hate her."

That's logical, right?

NO.

Let's stop, because it's really annoying.  

I mean, thank goodness I've never been too insanely successful in my life, because apparently everyone would hate me for it. 

What do we want them to do?? Turn the opportunities down?  Stop applying? Stop auditioning?  what?!?  What about that deserves our hate?  

Hint, hint... It doesn't!

So stop it.  Be a grown up and learn that even though sometimes you may want what someone else has... that doesn't mean they are a bad person for having it.

Really... sometimes human logic just gets on my nerves.

***All three of those are things I have seriously heard within the last two weeks.  LEGITIMATE COMMENTS made by people.  IN COLLEGE!!! Grow up!  

(If you're reading this and you are one of the people who said these things to me... I love you, really.  But, seriously?!?)

(Also, I would like to clarify that I am not referring to when people are joking around "you're beautiful. I hate you."  It happens.  Maybe not the most mature thing.. but we all know when it's a joke)

ALSO!!! Sorry that I never edit my posts anymore.  When I'm writing real papers I am a grammar/spelling NAZI.  But...  I don't blog with the same care.... and I tend to blog when my insomnia is kicking in enough that I'm awake but don't have the mental capacity to do homework, so here you have it.  A post that will probably make no sense in the morning.  GOODY!